{"id":41587,"date":"2019-06-25T15:18:02","date_gmt":"2019-06-25T15:18:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/?p=41587"},"modified":"2019-08-02T15:47:29","modified_gmt":"2019-08-02T15:47:29","slug":"real-talk-how-to-be-a-better-friend-ally","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/2019\/06\/25\/real-talk-how-to-be-a-better-friend-ally\/","title":{"rendered":"Real Talk: How to be a better friend &#038; ally"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>#AerieREAL&nbsp;Role Models Brenna Huckaby, Samira Wiley &amp; Iskra came together this spring in NYC to answer YOUR questions about how we can all be there for our friends a little more. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed-youtube wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<div class=\"jetpack-video-wrapper\"><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/B3iHaMzGI5U?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"2048\" height=\"2332\" src=\"https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ARL_FreiendAlly_RT_1.jpg?w=899\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-42363\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ARL_FreiendAlly_RT_1.jpg 2048w, https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ARL_FreiendAlly_RT_1.jpg?resize=263,300 263w, https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ARL_FreiendAlly_RT_1.jpg?resize=768,875 768w, https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ARL_FreiendAlly_RT_1.jpg?resize=1799,2048 1799w, https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ARL_FreiendAlly_RT_1.jpg?resize=1349,1536 1349w, https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ARL_FreiendAlly_RT_1.jpg?resize=443,505 443w, https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ARL_FreiendAlly_RT_1.jpg?resize=1280,1458 1280w, https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ARL_FreiendAlly_RT_1.jpg?resize=584,665 584w, https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ARL_FreiendAlly_RT_1.jpg?resize=210,239 210w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 2048px) 100vw, 2048px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>&#8220;We have to teach ourselves a loving language.&#8221;<\/p><cite>Iskra<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1081\" height=\"851\" src=\"https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ARL_FreiendAlly_RT_Brenna.jpg?w=1024\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-42359\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ARL_FreiendAlly_RT_Brenna.jpg 1081w, https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ARL_FreiendAlly_RT_Brenna.jpg?resize=300,236 300w, https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ARL_FreiendAlly_RT_Brenna.jpg?resize=768,605 768w, https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ARL_FreiendAlly_RT_Brenna.jpg?resize=641,505 641w, https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ARL_FreiendAlly_RT_Brenna.jpg?resize=584,460 584w, https:\/\/www.ae.com\/aerie-real-life\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/ARL_FreiendAlly_RT_Brenna.jpg?resize=210,165 210w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1081px) 100vw, 1081px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>&#8220;We can&#8217;t make change by ourselves. 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